Donna Morrissey and her four siblings gathered for drinks one evening, sharing stories that led to a profound realization. Growing up in Newfoundland, the family dynamic involved Morrissey and her sisters spending time indoors with their mother, while the brothers engaged in outdoor activities with their father. Even as adults, these roles persisted in their family interactions.
During the storytelling session, as her brothers recounted memories of their late father, Morrissey discovered a side of him that she had not known before. This revelation inspired her latest book, titled “Tell It to the Water: Five Siblings Tell of Their Father’s Grief and His Struggle Back to Hope.”
While the focal point of the book is Morrissey’s father’s grief following his wife’s death from cancer, it also delves into other significant tragedies, such as the loss of Morrissey’s brother, Ford, in a workplace accident nearly four decades ago.
Reflecting on the process of writing a memoir, Morrissey, known for her fictional works, expressed that delving into personal stories evoked raw emotions that she was not shielded from as with her fictional characters. The intimate nature of the narrative even brought her to tears at times.
The chapters in the book are narrated from the perspectives of Morrissey and her siblings, with each chapter clearly indicating the viewpoint. Bringing these stories to life for publication involved numerous discussions among the siblings, delving into the nuances of their shared past and emotions surrounding pivotal events.
Despite occasional tensions arising from their passionate exchanges, Morrissey highlighted that the process of writing the book has strengthened the bond among the siblings, fostering a deeper connection between them. The shared experiences within the book have not only brought closure but have also enriched their ongoing narrative as a family.
Dr. Simon Sherry, a psychologist at Crux Psychology in Halifax, discussed the psychology of grief in general terms, emphasizing the enduring emotional connection people maintain with their deceased loved ones. He noted that individuals evolve in their perceptions of those they have lost over time, maintaining a dynamic relationship with their memories.
Morrissey expressed her aspiration that the book will encourage readers to reflect on their own family dynamics and inspire those interested in documenting their family history. She highlighted that despite the tragedies her family has faced, the shared experiences have unified them and deepened their appreciation for one another as they navigate life’s challenges together.